30 Tips to Sort Your Life After Divorce

Janet's sisterThirty Tips To Get Your Life Back After Divorce.

Getting your life back on track after a divorce should be more about finding yourself rather than finding another partner.

If you don’t know who you are and what you stand for you probably won’t have much luck finding a partner that shares or understands your values, sense of humour or passions.

A divorce is a life changing event whether you like it or not, however, you don’t need to feel that you must fix your life immediately. In fact it is usually better to take time to take stock and recover from the upheaval.

Making the most of a life change involves looking at things differently and seeing opportunities that you may not have previously been able to take advantage of.

  1. Don’t go for a quick fix.
  2. Believe in yourself.
  3. Don’t worry, get busy.
  4. Be creative.
  5. Do something physical.
  6. Relax or meditate every day.
  7. Help other people.
  8. Get a pet.
  9. Keep in touch with old friends.
  10.  Make new friends.

While you are in the transition phase, i.e. getting your life back on track, it is good to find some activities that will take your mind away from your daily routine.  Walking, doing the housework in the evening, go to a film show, gardening – or join a community garden, listen to music. The trick is to surrender control. Problems are only problems if you see them that way. Taking time away from your worries often frees up your brain to come up with solutions.

Worrying causes more problems than it solves,

  1. Worry / Stress affects your health.
  2. Keeps you awake at night.
  3. Makes you sound like a broken record.
  4. Affects your eating habits, too much / too little.
  5. Makes you short tempered.
  6. Affects your concentration.
  7. Erodes you sense of discipline.
  8. Keeps you trapped in a never ending circle of ‘worrying’.
  9. Blinds you to possible solutions.
  10. Hides opportunities.

You’ll need to monitor yourself, it’s very easy to keep old habits and very hard to begin new ones, so, whenever you catch yourself worrying or doing stuff that you know caused you problems in the past, wake up to it and do something different.

The 10 building blocks of getting your life back on track,

  1. Be consistent – get busy whether you feel like it or not.
  2. Get back on track whenever you catch yourself wandering off or worrying.
  3. Move on from disappointments.
  4. Create habits to help you work effectively.
  5. Concentrate on the task in hand.
  6. Be accountable to yourself.
  7. Set some goals.
  8. Give yourself a treat every week.
  9. Stay away from people that pull you down.
  10. Be grateful, there will always be someone worse off than you are.

At the end of the day, you can read, talk, listen as much as you like, but nothing happens unless you actually DO something –  best wishes, get out there and do it, you know you can.

Check out my face book page, Life After Divorce, it’s packed with great tips and links on relationships. Here’s the link,

https://www.facebook.com/igotmylifeback/

 



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